"Well, we have quite a few male quilters come in, so I never assume," I smiled.
He stated that disappointed him.
Important to note here is that I own a feminist quilt shop. That means I believe women and men are equal, thereby delineating things as feminine activities and masculine activities is, at best, bad form. You do you. This is embodied in the creed of an organization founded by my partner, Maddie Kertay; the BadAss Quilters Society:
- Be confident enough to embrace your own style without the need to attack others.
- At least aspire to fearlessness in your craft as well as authentic, compassionate, and ethical treatment of each other.
- Be generally opposed to dumb-ass behavior that separates, denigrates, or makes light of another's work, style, or lifestyle.
- In short, BadAss Quilters are opposed to being a jerk about most things and about quilting most of all.
Back to the man who "came with his wife." I asked why he was disappointed. He said something about revoking male membership to those men who quilt.
"Because they do something they enjoy?" I asked.
His response was that they could enjoy "manly things."
My eyes wide an innocent, I parried, "Making things with your hands isn't manly?!"
"You're twisting my words," he laughed.
"I would never."
"Only if you thought you could get away with it."
Get away with it? Honey, you are in my shop.
My quilting world is full of people of all races, colors, creeds, abilities, religions (or not), orientations, and genders. In fact, I could have left the word quilting out of the previous sentence.
I am a feminist.
Do not box me or my fabulous rainbow of friends and family in.
Is your LQS welcoming to all? Give them a shout out in the comments!